Temperament Counseling is especially helpful for couples who are experiencing a challenge in any aspect of their relationship because it gets to the root of each partner’s needs and wants, and how the other may not be meeting them. By identifying and examining inborn temperament traits, we can determine where communication may have broken down and teach each partner the language they need to use to be heard again. Because temperament unveils our true self in terms of how we view ourselves, our partners and the world, temperament counseling reveals the ways in which we should best show up for ourselves and our love relationships as well as how we can function optimally in our surroundings.

Temperament Counseling is best suited for the following types of relationships (be they Heterosexual or Homosexual):

• Married Couples (married for any length of time)

• Partners in Committed Non-Marital Relationships (together for any length of time)

• Newly-Weds

• Engaged Couples

• Dating Couples

• Premarital Couples (if you are interested in planning for marriage, you should also click on “Marriage Prep/Premarital Road Mapping”)

• Separated Partners (you might also be interested “Discernment Counseling” or “Individual Counseling”)

• Divorced Partners (you might also be interested in “Family Therapy” or “Individual Counseling”)

What Issues can Couples’ Temperament Counseling Help with?

Relationship harmony will begin to break down when a couple experiences some or all the following: poor communication, inattention, disapproval, non-involvement, judgment, unmet needs, negativity, emotional abuse, and physical violence. Most often, our temperament dictates how we see ourselves and what we expect from others. As a result, Temperament Counseling can go a long way to highlighting where and why a relationship has broken down. At the same time, it can help to improve communication, strengthen or reestablish trust, promote emotional and physical intimacy, repair pain and mistrust after an affair or other transgression, provide clarity as to whether to end a relationship, accommodate differences in parenting styles and more.

Relationships can be confusing and challenging at the best of times. Couples’ Temperament Counseling can help provide clarity and direction. Although mutual love is a necessary ingredient to any union, it is not sufficient to sustain two people throughout a lifetime if there is no respect, support, mutuality, appreciation, patience, companionship, compatibility and compassion. Effective counseling can make a partner aware of how their own behaviors contribute to or even sabotage a situation so that they can take responsibility for them. It helps a person know himself or herself better and see why he or she repeats negative behaviors. Much of what drives our behavior is subconscious, and therapy can bring these tendencies to the surface so they can be examined and then changed or redirected.

It is our experience that the best outcome in Couples’ Temperament Counseling is arrived at when both partners willing and ready to participate fully. However, individual partners can learn a great deal about themselves and their relationship even if their loved one is unwilling to take part.

Often relationships get into a rut and it is difficult to see how change can occur. Partners frequently attempt the same behaviors over and over again with no results and this can end in exhaustion, helplessness and hopelessness. Finding a way back to meaning and communication is possible through effective counseling. Temperament Counseling treats the person in terms of their mind, body and spirit, and seeks to put all three into balance.

Sometimes, Couples’ Temperament Counseling includes individual sessions with each partner, so that he or she may focus and understand their needs within the couple relationship. It may also be the case that one or both partners may desire to pursue individual counseling at the same time to work on their own personal issues that are less relevant to the couple relationship. If this is the case, the counselor can help you decide how this might be achieved.

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